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Choose your thoughts wisely

The biological aspect of thought is that powerful hormones are released in the body based on what we are thinking, and they create health or disease for us. They are the link between the mind and the body and a major factor in the thought process whether that process be conditioned or deliberate.

There is no better existence than creating your own highness in a life well worth living that millions of people spend thousands of dollars to attain...it starts with a thought...and practice creates momentum.

Choose your thoughts...and think to choose

So how do we make our choices?

With our thoughts...the ones that stem from conditioning and habit that create belief patterns and cause us to act. Only we can control our own thoughts and allow our bodies to carry out the actions of those thoughts. If they result in an introverted or extroverted destructive action, we need to revisit our core beliefs and change our perceptions. Common sense will tell you that something is amiss where there is pain...and fear of the imagined pain of a truth will keep you suffering in the worse pain of a lie.

We need only know ourselves in truth and be compassionate in allowing another to know themselves as we all have the same opportunity for choice that cannot be forced. Sometimes you may want to share your ideas with others as a way of helping them in their life, but they may not want to think differently or see the truth and you will be wasting precious energy. Remind yourself that the best way to help others is to learn and build strength in yourself first, then be the example and share with those who want to know. Do not leave your wisdom to die on the doorstep of the closed mind...it seeks expression of life.

Focus on what you want...not what you don't want

So where do we find our thoughts?

On both sides of the line...thoughts change with range of feeling in every situation that you face. As human beings, we have both subjective/emotional and objective/intellectual capabilities and gender is not a factor in the strength or weakness of either. Feeling is a part of our inherent nature and we need to develop a range in it to become balanced individuals. We all have feelings that affect us in our decisions whether or not we choose to see them...others can see them clearly by our action or non-action. 

1. If you find yourself approaching a situation subjectively, with only your feeling, you will think a certain way and miss half of the picture.

2. If you find yourself approaching a situation objectively, with no feeling, you will think a certain way and miss half of the picture.

Either approach affects your choice and both are important for a full picture to create an effective solution in any situation. Notice how quickly you can change the way you think by taking a thought up or down on your own feeling scale.

1. If you are too subjective in a situation, rise above your swell of feeling and distance yourself from it...and look at it again.

2. If you are too objective in a situation, rise above your lack of feeling and put yourself right in the middle of it...and look at it again.

You may find that your course of action changes when you look at it again with more or less feeling. You will become aware of previously ignored factors and you can then make better choices throughout the decision process. If you have mixed feelings about the situation, you either don't have enough information or you are choosing to ignore what you see on a certain level. The goal is to find a solution that is accepted at both levels or you will be taking a chance that your choice is the right one.

Once you begin thinking in balance, you will find your mind expanding with better ideas because you have expanded the way that you can think. You will have highly intelligent solutions evolving as you free your mind from the limitations caused by being stuck on one point of perspective.

Catch your thoughts in the act

So, how do we change thoughts?

By re-linking to new ones...thoughts are things that you choose to think about and to create new ones, you need to activate the neurons in the brain to link to them. Consider something that you think a lot about and you will notice that you didn't always think about this particular thing, you did it with practice. If there is something you want not to think about anymore, you must break the neuron link to it and it will dissipate. The old saying, "out of sight...out of mind" is a good example because when you stop seeing something you will forget about it unless you choose to keep the link alive. That's why when you go on a vacation from work, you need a few moments to re-link or re-focus because you'd been linking to other things while away. *When you are grieving, the emotions keep thoughts alive.

The problem with 'out of sight...out of mind' is that it requires one to leave a situation or ask someone else to leave so you can get on with getting it/them out of your mind. This is not always an option so we must work from inside the situation and get certain thoughts of it/them out of our minds while still in sight. This requires more effort, but you will have the situation changing to your favor just the same.

For example:

Say you wanted to watch a certain television show or movie at a certain time. Without creating a schedule, you place importance on it by thinking more about it and associating it with a certain time. You will never miss the show because you have created a link to it as well as a subconscious reminder of when it is on.

This is a small example of creating a new thought and can be used on a bigger scale to get a certain job, or meet a certain person, or find a certain item. It all starts with something that you want and then thinking your way to make it happen. The more that you practice this skill, the shorter the timeframe gets between the first idea and the actualization.

Affirmations work because they are actively causing you to link to certain thoughts by repetition, and practice is the key to creating a strong link to a certain thought. Writing your desired thoughts down and/or saying them out loud creates a stronger blast of neurons to the thought as it confirms your want.

This is the line that you do not want to cross.

The thought process works with undesirable thoughts as well as desirable ones, like when you realize you honestly don't like someone that you have been spending time with, like your boss, a co-worker or a partner. You will find your thoughts dancing around ways to avoid them and your body tensing a lot with resistance to being around them. Once you recognize this thought, do not allow it to cause you to creating trouble, instead start thinking of a better place you'd rather be until you can sever your ties. 

Fears are a dangerous place in the mind to play and can cause addiction, so learn to be objective with unwarranted fearful thoughts. If you are afraid of something happening that you have no proof of, begin to take the emotion from them so that they will dissolve before they become a reality. A good example of fearful thoughts is when you fear infidelity from your mate. You will find yourself acting from your fears which may be interpreted as you being the one having an affair. If you clearly don't trust your mate, you are either insightful or insecure, so start communicating your paranoia fast before it gets worse.

Anxiety/panic induced thoughts

Irrational and fearful thoughts of hurting yourself or someone else, fears of going crazy are likely a sign of an anxiety or panic disorder. You will need to reduce stimulation such as TV, avoid caffeine, and learn to ground yourself by concentrating on your breathing, marching heavily, or reading until it passes.